LOOKING AT THE WORLD FROM YOUR OWN COLORED SCREEN.

I read an article some years ago and the writer said that most people look at the world from their own colored screen. What he was trying to say was that most people are always right from their perspective. The very first time I saw a right-hand driven car when I was a child I said that that car was wrongly made. If someone who lives in a country with right-hand driven cars came to my country he will need to see things differently. To a Chinese every other person has slanted eyes,

While it is good to think from our point of view we should also learn to be objective sometimes. It is objectivity that is the key to having a sound relationship. If we will be at least objective fro a while we will see things differently. Many of us look at what people have done to us , we never look at what we have done to others.

The best way to live in peace is to look at things from the other person’s view. Take for example I collected something from you. You have to give before I could receive. Many times if we could just wait a little in judging others we will find that things are going to be better.

Your partner went out and you’ve been trying to reach him on phone but could not reach him what would you do some will conclude. That he has gone out with another lady. A young man met me sometime ago  and told me the cause of the problem between he and his fiancée. He said that he went out and left his phone at home and she was calling him. The phone was ringing close to her but because of her pre-conceived mindset she could not hear it. That led to the end of the relationship. What if she had delayed judgement she would have saved her relationship.

How many things have we lost because of this thing I am talking about. How many more will you lose? The very first step to solve this problem is to first of develop the habit of giving a positive interpretation to things that happen to you. It is normal for you to first of all think that something is wrong. But you must deliberately tell yourself that something is right. Always have a positive outlook of everything until they prove otherwise.

Another thing to do is to trust people. Many times because of the betrayal of trust we have received while we are growing up we tend to suspect people. I know it might not be easy but we should learn to trust people until they prove otherwise.

Lastly don’t think you are always right. Try  to take responsibility somehow for some wrong done. Even though the other person is wrong try and see how you contributed and I tell you we’ll have a happier world.